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About the Female G-Spot

What is been popularly but erroneously called the G Spot is the area on the upper wall of the vagina through which the urethral or Skenes glands AKA prostate can be felt.  The media picked up the term G Spot from the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about Human Sexuality and has promulgated the notion of a spot on the upper wall of the vagina itself. The search for a spot on the upper wall of the vagina, as opposed to searching for the prostate or urethral glands through the upper wall may be contributing to the difficulty of finding a single G spot and the controversy as to whether it exists at all.

Originally, it was thought that women only had clitoral orgasms.  Now we are finding that one can experience an orgasm in just about any area of the body. The G-area orgasm is best described as a vaginal orgasm, which means it is generated and experienced mostly within the vaginal area.  However, with practice and patience, the orgasms generated from this area can expand to include the whole body.  Lovers playing with the G-area regularly have also expanded the woman's orgiastic response from the average of 10-15 seconds to minutes and even hours!

To access it, a finger can be inserted inside the vagina, with the fingertip pad facing the clitoris, past the vaginal entry muscles, and follow the curve over the pubic bone so that your finger ends up on the other side of that bone.  Your fingertip would be crooked, just over the bone, with the pad on this tissue.

The tissue has been compared with the male prostate.  It feels a little like corrugated paper, with a ridgey texture.  It is possible to stimulate this area with the penis as well.  Once the woman knows how it feels (a little like the pressure when you have to urinate - it is best to evacuate the bladder before you begin G-play), then the two of you can experiment with positions and angles that work for her.  An average or longer length of penis that curves back towards its owner's body when erect has the easiest time accessing it.  There have also been various wood and acrylic-type wands that have been designed just for this purpose for those who like extended play sessions.  When choosing one of these wands, it works best if the wand is curved, like the one Nectar Products offers.

Now, in approaching the G-area, it is important to be aware of the special nature of this area.  It has been realized in our bodies, that our cellular/muscular/organ structure also holds memory of past traumas, if they have not been properly and completely released.  Have you ever heard of sexual healing?  The G-area provides one of the most efficient and easiest ways to get there!  The G-area is notably a place where a lot of emotions may be stored. Just as regular prostate massage is recommended for men to avoid prostate problems, it is actually a good idea for a woman's sexual and emotional health to make time for special, health massage/healing G-area sessions on an ongoing basis, outside of the lovemaking arena.  Then she can feel total permission to explore and release any tensions and traumas she may be holding there.

Therefore, whether you are with a woman who has never experienced this type of stimulation, or with someone who has, it is important to remember that if you choose to stimulate this area, you never know what type of response you may experience.  She may jump into sexual ecstasy, she may feel nothing, or it might even be uncomfortable, even painful for her.  Persistence on the part of both lovers will pay off in earthshaking dividends and profoundly, deeper intimacy, that we all crave, if they understand how to approach and surf the experience, whatever the response.
By Shama and Dr. Gary Schuback

The Crystal Wand

The Crystal Wand has been specifically designed by Taylor Lamborne to easily reach and stimulate the G spot. The G spot is an area within the vagina that has great sensitivity. It is located in the anterior (front) wall half way between the cervix and the outer vaginal opening. The location varies slightly with each woman and is normally difficult to reach on her own.

In some esoteric disciplines, the G spot is said to be the source of female creative power and the seat of Kundalini energy. Women have described orgasm stimulated from this area as "a deeper and more overwhelming feeling; a more pervasive flowing sensation throughout the body, of wider waves of feeling." In Tantra Yoga, the G spot is said to be the feminine polarity of female sexuality and the clitoris is the masculine. 

Other uses of the Crystal Wand include anal stimulation of the male prostate gland. It has been found to be of benefit for sufferers of Prostatitus, an inflammation of the prostate gland. Also it works wonderfully for stimulating men's prostate for heightened sexual arousal.

Male and Female users have reported a wide variety of exciting results from using the Crystal Wand, including:

  • increased sexual energy and openness 
  • Increased vitality in every area of life 
  • Increased calmness and serenity 
  • Awakening of dormant sensuality 
  • Enhanced appreciation of the body and femininity (for women) and greater depth and sensitivity in men 

For more information on the Crystal Wand please visit Taylor Lamborne's Web site http://www.lovenectar.com

Female G-Spot Uses

A  G-SPOT orgasm has been described by many women, as being a deeper and more all pervading, flowing sensation.  Wider waves of orgasmic feelings flood throughout the entire body !  The Crystal Wand has been specifically designed by a woman for this experience. This allows a woman to open to receive more pleasure, a deeper quality of orgasm, and emotional healing. The Crystal Wand is the perfect tool for women to discover, explore, and stimulate their G-SPOT with a partner or alone. She can experiment using the Crystal Wand together with normal clitoral stimulation, or a vibrator for a whole new dimension in sexuality!

TIPS FOR WAND USE

A. 1) Breathe deep into pelvis (relaxes tension)
  2) Squeeze P.C. muscles (revs up engine!)
 
B. 1) Lay on back
  2) Pillow under knees
  3) Wand inside (blunt end for Female G-Spot, pointed end for anal entry or Male G-Spot)
  4) Other end tucked under pillow (like lever)
  5) Hands free to explore!
 
C.   Strokes
  1) Deep scooping
  2) Tapping on other end
  3) Side to side' 11 o'clock to 1 o'clock
 
D. 1) I "have to pee" sensation (and I just did)
  2) Hold pressure of Wand
  3) Relax, breathe, let go into sensation
  4) Sensation will pass
  5) Pleasure increases
 
E.   Use Massage Egg on outside lower abdomen/Wand inside (intensifies sensation!)
  1) Turn on music
  2) On your side
  3) Rock pelvis
  4) Press wand between thighs
  5) Other end inside (Wow!)

Female G-Spot Massage Techniques

Here are some good, basic rules to follow for a successful G-area healing session.

1.  The facilitator should always have the intent to heal and pleasure.

2.  Take the time to "wake up" the area.  Massage her thighs, top and bottom, stomach, breasts, and her rear end.  Let her relax and become accustomed to your touch.  Harmonize your moods.  Encourage her to breathe deeply and exhale with sound.  Sound will always increase the pleasure.  Breathe with her  and follow her sounds, making sounds with her.  It will help you to "vibrate" with her feelings better, and she will feel additional loving encouragement from you. 

3.  When you feel it is time to approach her genitals, ask permission first.  This lets her know that you respect her body as hers and that she always has choice.  This also gives her encouragement to express her desires...she may not yet be ready.  Many women are not accustomed to having their readiness or feelings considered.  You want her to WANT YOU to touch her.  Begin by touching the outer areas with soft caresses and touches.  NO RUBBING at first.  The area could go numb before you've even begun!  Tease her a little, have her wanting more! 

4.  When you feel it is time to touch her inner labia, ask permission again.  Then, make sure that there is plenty of lubrication.  It is best to assume that hers may not be plentiful enough, so either wet your fingers with your saliva or use a lubricant.  Never enter the inner lips without lubrication, as it is uncomfortable for her. Continue to tease and tantalize her, only barely flirting with her vaginal opening and her clitoris.  Build the anticipation.  It makes it more fun and more intense. 

5.  Once she is fully aroused, begin by gently, slowly and lovingly feeling the muscles just outside the vaginal entry.  Whenever you do this work, begin by moving slowly. Your fingers can sense more, and she can feel your touch at a deeper level.  Ask her if she feels any tenderness there.  If so, then gently press in on that spot until you feel resistance, or she tells you to stop.  You want to gently press on the area so that she is aware of the discomfort, but not yet where she wants to back away.  Encourage her to breathe and make sounds along with you while you watch for some form of release.  Often this acupressure approach can turn into its own orgasm. 

Keep checking with her and she will let you know whether to increase the pressure, or back off.  Encourage her to feel all that is coming up for her.... words, thoughts, emotions.  The two of you can use the sound making techniques to help her "get into feeling her feelings" even more. You may encounter shivers, groans, growling, tears, hysteria, sobs, orgiastic bliss, or all of them!  As her lover, please stay focused on her at all times, maintain eye contact so that she knows you are there for her, and let her feelings fully express! 

It is important not to take any of these reactions personally.  Just hold the space for her to express.  Don't say anything, except to nurture, support, or encourage her.  DON'T TRY TO FIX IT!  Just let her feel and be. 

Then when she indicates that she feels complete for that area, move to another muscular area and do more of the same. 

6.  Eventually, it will be time to enter the vaginal opening.  Again ask for permission.  It is important that the timing is right for her! If you are using a Crystal Wand, begin by using your fingers up until this moment, or you can start with fingers, and change to the Crystal Wand later (a lot of lovers do this when their fingers get tired and their partner is still going!).  Continue with the same procedure on the inner walls of the vagina, slowly working your way up to the G-area. 

7.  At the G-area check with your partner to see if the touches you are giving her are pleasurable.  Start with the acupressure technique described above.  The tissue will begin to swell as the touch becomes more pleasurable.  Once it swells, you can experiment with other forms of stimulation.... rubbing side to side (first gently, and then increasing the pressure and pace as her arousal gains momentum)...tapping.... stroking down and up...two fingers, etc.  Stay focused, watch her response, and respond to her reaction.  Let her lead this dance!  It will increase her feelings of safety and her pleasure. Try to stay as connected to her as you can through eye contact, sound and breath!  With practice you may be surprised to find yourself feeling her feelings! 

When stimulating the G-area during regular lovemaking, it is advisable to be prepared to switch to healing mode, if she moves into deep emotion.  It is also wise to integrate many of these techniques into your everyday play, as appropriate, such as asking permission, watching to make sure that there is always plenty of lubrication, staying focused and attentive to your lover, and taking the time to "wake her up" before you plunge into more intense stimulation. 

With newbies, sometimes the beginning takes a little time and perseverance, but with patience, the rewards are gaining greater emotional and physical health, greater intimacy, and bigger and better orgasms!  I wish you joyous adventures! 

By Shama

 
 
     
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